A brother in Christ wrote of his struggle with sin and asked

If there are any brethren on here, that can pray for the forgiveness of my sins, I have been through this so many times I feel God isn’t listening to me these days.

Maybe there is someone on here that can pray for my forgiveness and deliverance from this sin that has tormented me for four years.

Dear brother….the truth is what sets us free, and God your Father is with you, feeling your pain and mess. He has already judged your sin and ALREADY forgiven you.
You are a new creation in Christ and as such ARE right now holy and righteous and blameless before God….not by works of righteousness which you imagine you are able to do…..and not by any imagined ability you think you have to NOT SIN.
You have ensnared your soul by making that vow…..but you know that the Lord is your Father. Father’s have the authority to free you from all foolish vows you have made in your desperation to please Him.
See, God knew back then 4 years ago that you could not in any way keep your vow. You didn’t know it though.
So now you are stuck right in the middle of Romans 7 where Paul himself found himself.

The things I want to do I cannot do…the things I don’t wanta do, I do!!

Who will deliver me from this horrible mess that I am??!!

Dear brother!! May Father show you —that YOU HAVE BEEN DELIVERED through the action of Jesus Christ your elder brother and kinsman redeemer.
There is now no condemnation to you ….for you died with Christ…that old I that was under God’s judgement…DIED…WAS BURIED….done away with, rendered inoperable..see romans 6:6.

It is in seeing this and believing it as your own personal experience despite the mess your natural eyes still see that freedom comes.
Your mess does not change what God has done in you brother.
You are clean and washed and pure and holy right now little brother.
Believe it and rejoice!
The accuser says differently…but GOD says you– ___________(insert your name) in Christ- are my beloved son in whom I am well pleased!

About Vows

Num 30:3 “Or if a woman makes a vow to the LORD, and binds herself by some agreement while in her father’s house in her youth,
Num 30:4 and her father hears her vow and the agreement by which she has bound herself, and her father holds his peace, then all her vows shall stand, and every agreement with which she has bound herself shall stand.
Num 30:5 But if her father overrules her on the day that he hears, then none of her vows nor her agreements by which she has bound herself shall stand; and the LORD will release her, because her father overruled her.

I want you to know brother, that even though the passage above is addressed to women, there is neither male nor female in Jesus…The Lord is your Father and he has overruled your vow.
The old covenant failed because men vowed to try to keep God’s commandments.
The new covenant made in Jesus blood does not fail, for it is God who fulfils His commandments in us and has done so. Victory is ours ONLY by faith.
It is in coming to see WHO WE REALLY ARE in Christ that sets us free.

You see brother, religion is based upon man trying to be good enough for God….thus we make vows and promise to not sin.
This is an old covenant mindset and is doomed to fail from the start.
Condemnation and accusation drive the person to try harder for God. We imagine that because we have sinned we need to somehow steal ourselves and pick ourselves up by the bootlaces and try harder next time. We may make certain hurdles and fences to avoid our pet sins…we may gather an army or prayer warriors around us….we may go down the route of confessing to others and being accountable to someone….all of this is self help old covenant based doomed to failure.
The victory is right there in Christ written in Romans.
It is in seeing how the new covenant has forgiven you all sin, put your sinful self to death, and raised you up in Jesus a brand new man. You are no longer a slave of sin and but have been redeemed by the stronger one-Jesus. You are now a slave of righteousness so present your members to righteousness.
How do you do that?
Pretty hard to do that if you do not even know that you are not a dirty sinner now but a blood washed child of God.
Your Father knows who you are and He sees you in Christ Jesus. You are in Christ Jesus by His working…not by your own. You are now in one day and out the next. You are PERMANENTLY IN HIM. But the old mindset is locked into the old covenant thinking. Which says I am responsible to be good for God. This is the mind set upon the flesh and will only produce death and condemnation in your life.
The mind set on the Spirit is life and peace.
That mind –which you have–the mind of Christ….is set on things above where Christ is sitting at the right hand of God…and you have been raised up in Him and made to sit together with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus.
It is in seeing this and agreeing with God on these things that we walk clear of the besetting sins.
You don’t win by seeing yourself as the defeated one.
You don’t gain victory by thinking you have lost again.
You are victorious even though with your outer man you fall into a mess.
The victory is the cross and the resurrection…NOT your performance.
And we overcome by faith–and
faith is expressed first of all with WORDS out of your own mouth brother.
Speak what God says of you
Believe what God says of you.
Keep speaking it everyday –read Eph 1 and 2 for example and personalise every phrase where Paul uses “we” or “you”…say “I (your name)”.
And when you fail instead of turning to see your sin, see the blood of Jesus and the serpent on the brazen cross crucified for you…so that you would be healed of the serpents poison.